you can change your story | part 1

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The Daring Romantics 

Episode No. 33

for the majority of the human population— life feels normal. it’s full of familiar routines and on a typical day—nothing big, outrageous, or crazy happens.

on a day to day basis it’s hard to see that we are living out a story —it’s hard to see the big picture because we’re in the middle of navigating our way through this human experience. and, too often, we buy into the idea that our lives are too boring, too average to be considered worthy of a story— let alone, a story worth retelling. 

but, the truth is— no matter who you, where you come,  what your education is, how old you are, what you do for a living, or how many people know your name — YOU HAVE A STORY.

you don’t have to do anything to earn your story or prove yourself worthy of a story. you have one— automatically. just by being here on this earth with air pumping through your lungs and blood rushing through your veins. 

however, it’s up to each of us, as individuals, to make our story a good one— to make our lives meaningful and purposeful. it’s up to us to take control of our narrative— to not be bystanders of our lives, but to be intentional to author it, edit, and share it.

this week, on @thedaringromantics podcast, i am diving into the idea of our lives being stories and why it’s important that we are intentional to not just write our stories, but to edit them— editing what we do, say, hear, experience, surround ourselves with, and think. because it’s when we take the time to intentionally edit our lives + stories that we have the opportunity to take our ordinary lives and make them extraordinary— full of meaning and purpose.

cheers and xo's, 

lindsey eryn 

 

chill out! you have a lifetime to achieve your goals

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Episode No. 32

The Daring Romantics 

dream chasing is hard and sometimes we buy into the misconception that if we’re going to be successful— then we have to meet all our goals RIGHT NOW. so, we set strict deadlines. we hustle 24/7, 365 days a year, because we’re told that’s what “real” entrepreneurs do. but, in the process, too often— many of us get overwhelmed, tired, and stop finding the fun in creating. 

how do i know this? 

because, it’s happened to me. 

in fact, if i’m being honest — that’s the season i’m in right now.

tired. overwhelmed. and finding my work anything but fun. 

my goals, which were once exciting and gave me an adrenaline of inspiration now feel more like a burden than anything else. 

as soon as i realized that i was finding work “not fun”— i started asking myself questions. because, honest to goodness, i love work. i love what i do. i think i have the best job ever.

so, if i was feeling drained, tired, and loosing the spark — then i knew i needed to dig deep and figure out why. i needed to cure the proverbial illness not just mask the symptom. 

and, what i discovered was that somewhere along the line, i started feeling the pressure to meet all my goals ASAP. i felt the need to have a quick turn around on every idea. 

which, is silly. because, i know better. 

i know that slow and steady wins the race. 

regardless, we all do and think silly thing sometimes, right? 

the past couple weeks, the idea “piece by piece, moment by moment” has been a repeated theme in my writings and morning walks. as i sat down and started going through my writings, i noticed the phrase or similar ideas were all over. 

it’s like my heart and soul had been marinating on this idea, waiting for my head to acknowledge it and understand it. you see, we don’t have to accomplish everything right now — in this year, in the next five years, or even in this decade. we have a lifetime to achieve our goals. and with that in mind, we are allowed to layer our successes, one upon another. 

we’re allowed to take our time to build empires that impact culture and legacy that impact future generations. 

when we give ourselves the permission and space to layer our successes, moment by moment — we also give ourselves the opportunity to build something sustainable. something that is going to truly last — not crumble and fall because of burnout or because we lost the joy of creating. 

this week, on the daring romantics — i’m pulling back the proverbial curtain and showing the imperfections within myself and my business. this episode is candid — sharing what i’m learning right now as i journey to take the pressure off myself to meet my goals right now and find enjoyment in my work again.

in this episode, i share 3 things that i did VERY wrong during the first 6 months of the year and 4 things that i am going to do differently so that i can make it to my goals with renewed strength. 

wherever you are in your journey, i hope that this episode gives you the courage to press on — slow and steady. take the pressure off yourself to meet your goals today, tomorrow, or the next day. you’ve got a lifetime, my friend. 

tune into episode no. 32 on iTunes, stitcher, or spotify. 

cheers and xo’s, 

lindsey eryn

nothing beats old friends

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The Daring Romantics 

Episode No. 31

as we grow and progress as human beings and entrepreneurs, it’s natural for us to want to find new friends who are in similar seasons and industries as us.

too often though, as we search out these new friendships + connections, we lose touch with our old friends. 

while it’s important to find like-minded people to dream chase with, its equally important to stay intentional with our old friends — the ones who know us, our stories, and history.

because, there’s something special about those connections that we made before we started our careers. our old friends — they know us, the non-glamorous, not-so-serious and ever so silly selves. they helped us get through those low moments of life —whether it was circling around school, relationships, family, or health. they went through the awkward stages with us — and accepted and loved us when instagram wasn’t a thing and we had braces or couldn’t figure out to dress for our bodies. they picked us up when we experienced our first heartbreaks and assured us that life was going to be good. they are the friends who can speak life to us and truth to us, without dancing around the issue. they’ll tell it like it is, because — that’s why they’ve always done. our old friends, they’ve watched us become who we are.

and while they may not be walking down the same path of entrepreneurship and building ideas from nothing, they still play a significant role in our lives. 

they know us — better and more intimately than almost anyone else. the history we have with our friends can never be replaced. and, yes, while we can make new friends and who will understand our new passions and desires to build businesses and dreams — they’ll never quite understand our history and story like our old friends do. because, our old friends lived it out with us.

while our world is more connected than ever, it seems as if people are more lonely than ever, too. we talk on the regular about community — and how important it is. but, sometimes, as we progress  as humans— we’re so quick to forget and leave behind the friends we grew up with, the ones that know us, the ones that love us. we come up with all these reasons about how “we’re so different from them now”. but, maybe, instead of finding how different we are— we need to be looking for how we’re still the same and how we’re still connected.

this week, on the daring romantics podcast, i brought on dalenna kircheis, one of my best friends from college. we’ve been friends for over a decade — and while our journeys have taken us to two different destinations, we’re still connected, closer than we’ve ever been, and living life together — because, we’ve realized that “to be loved is to be known, and to be known is to be loved” and nothing beats old friends. 

throughout the episode, we’re sharing some tips on how you can stay connected with your old friends despite the differences you may now have and also some ways to turn new friends into old friends by being intentional. 

this episode will be sure to make you laugh. but, more than anything — i hope that it gives you the courage to go deeper in your existing relationships and be ever so intentional with building new friendships. 

cheers and xo's, 

lindsey eryn

say farewell to fear

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The Daring Romantics 

Episode No. 30

if i can be honest, one of the biggest mistakes that i have made as an entrepreneur is making fear based decisions. in my early days of creating, if you would have told me i was acting out of fear— i would have tried to put you in your place and tell you that you were making it up. 

but, we wise up with age, right? 

you see, when i first started out— i had NO IDEA what i was doing. being an “entrepreneur” or “dream chaser” wasn’t even in my vocabulary. in my mind, i needed a job so i created one for myself. and that’s that. 

looking back, i can tell you straight up— i made a lot of decisions based on fear of failing, based on the fear of losing a client, based on the fear of not making ends meet, based on the fear that i wouldn’t matter or have purpose in this world. 

it was decision after decision that was based on fear. and the thing about fear —it never leads anywhere good. it’s like a downward spiral that leads to sadness, depression, paranoia, lack of inspiration, and hopelessness. 

it wasn’t until i kept on hitting the same points of frustration time and time again that i began to ask myself question and make moves to become more self-aware of the way i was living and making decisions. and, when i took the time to ask myself the real questions, the hard questions, the good questions — i came to the realization that i was making all my moves with fear as my motivating factor. and it was robbing me of inspiration, true creativity, and taking all of the fun out of creating.

i knew that if i wanted my life, my work, and my business to be different and to forge ahead in this world and make big waves —then i was going to have to change. i was going to have to change how i interacted with fear and how i made decisions.

because, i realized this simple truth — when we let fear rule our decisions, we relinquish control over our lives. 

and, i don’t know about you — but, i want my dreams / goals / visions to pierce through the atmosphere and become reality. i don’t want to give fear any power or control over my life. i don’t want fear to determine if i will or will not accomplishing something in this world.

this week, on the daring romantics podcast, i’m sharing what i’ve learned about how to overcome fear and how to avoid making fear based decisions. throughout the episode, i share some of my own stories and experiences and weave in three truths that we need to remember and 5 practical tips that we and all implement in order to make better decisions that are full of bravery.

take a listen to episode no. 30 “say farewell to fear” on iTunes, stitcher, or lindseyeryn.com

we’re all in this together, friends.

you got this.

cheers and xo's,

lindsey eryn

it's not a straight line

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The Daring Romantics Podcast

Episode No. 29

i think, throughout life — i thought that life was going to be one straight line. 

as a college student, i thought— “i’ll graduate college, move to boston, start a non-profit, and get married.” 

simple as that. 

yet, what life started showing me… 

was that dream chasing is anything but a straight line. 

my plans for boston fell through. and, despite how much i didn’t want to stay in my college town i found myself there—interning. nannying. not making a salary, and living off taco bell. 

during this season of life, i felt like — “what the heck am i doing?” 

i felt like i had all these big extravagant plans for life, and here i was— stuck at a detour. 

i couldn’t see how interning was going to help me to get to where i wanted to be. 

and more than anything, it felt like it was slowing me down from reaching my dreams and goals. 

this wasn’t the straight line to dreams come true that i had envisioned for myself.  

if i am being honest, i think that i wasted a lot of valuable time resenting my journey— resenting the sharp left turns, the detours, and the forks in the road that i encountered along the way. 

it’s not that i wanted an “easy” road, but i wanted a direct route to my dream. because, i thought that’s what it meant to be successful. 

but what i’ve realized throughout my journey, is that there’s no such thing as direct route when you’re dream chasing. because, dream chasing is too wild and spontaneous for a straight, clean line. 

the path of dream chasing is more like driving through the mountains, where you have to keep your hand on the steering wheel the whole time, because there’s twists and turns in the roads. there’s uphill climbs, and steep declines. there’s change in paces as you go around the bends of the road. and, at some point, the road is narrow — keeping you on alert. the views along this road are spectacular, but, it’s not like driving the empty highways of oklahoma where you can put yourself on cruise control and sit back and relax as you drive a straight shot to the next city. 

if we’re choosing the path of dream chasing, then we have to also choose to commit and embrace to the winding journey that it’ll take us on. there’s no straight shot.

you see, what we fail to realize sometimes, is that if we had a straight shot to our dreams, if our paths were completely linear— we’d miss out on experiencing the very things that equip us to make magic in the world. at each turn, detour, pit stop — we gain something, leave something behind, or produce something that will help us on the road up ahead and give us the tools, knowledge, wisdom, and understanding that we need to make impact in our community and industries. 

this week, on the daring romantics podcast, i’m opening up about my own journey — sharing how it’s been anything but a straight line. it’s been crooked, messy, full of detours, and sharp turns — but, without those sometimes unexpected curves on my path, i wouldn’t be who i am or where i am today. and, for that— i am eternally grateful. 

i hope more than anything, at the end of this episode, that you walk away with the confidence that you’re on the right path. even if your journey looks and feels a little crooked, jagged, rugged, and unconventional. life isn’t a straight line. my wish is that this episode helps you to learn how to celebrate every curve in your road with the confidence that each curve, each climb uphill, or change in pace is leading you to somewhere more breathtaking than your wildest imagination. 

tune into the episode no. 29 “it’s not a straight line” on iTunes or stitcher. 

cheers and xo's, 

lindsey eryn 

a seat at the table

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EPISODE No. 28

The Daring Romantics

THERE’S A SEAT AT THE TABLE FOR YOU. 

as humans, one of our innate desires is to belong. however, too often, we spend valuable time questioning if we belong and if we have a seat at the proverbial table of life. we allow our self-doubt to keep us from fully accepting the invitation to pull up a chair, sink into our seats, and claim our seat at the table— the place where we can be seen, our ideas can be heard, and where we can make a difference.

here’s the one and only truth that you need to know about the table: 

YOU BELONG.

let go of your preconceived ideas that tell you that you have to be rich + famous, older or younger, or from a certain demographic to have a seat of the table. you have a seat— just as you are. you don’t have to change anything about you to have a seat at the table. you merely have to accept the invitation. 

at the table— life happens, ideas are shared, movements are started, change is sparked, passion is ignited, and dreams come to life. at the table, you’ll find community and realize that you don’t have to do life and dreaming alone. at the table, you’ll come to an understanding that your voice matters and your contribution is important.

but, have no doubt, you cannot just accept the invitation to the table and then sit in silence. the table will ask some things of you. 

this week, on the daring romantics podcast, i’m opening up the conversation about the table and sharing my own experiences with questioning if i belonged at the table or not. throughout this episode, i hope that you feel encouraged by the truth that YOU BELONG and empowered to claim your seat and be all that you were called to be. and, yes, i’ll be sharing the five things that the table will ask of you once you claim your rightful place at the table. 

you, my friend, were born for such a time as this. it’s your time, it’s your season — to claim your spot at the table, to influence communities, and lead others to dreams come true. take ownership of your spot.

tune into episode no. 28 “a seat at the table” on iTunes

cheers and xo's, 

lindsey eryn

5 things that are slowing you down from reaching your goals

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Episode No. 27 

The Daring Romantics 

the other day, i was thinking back to the beginning of my journey as an entrepreneur. first off, i admit — i had no idea what i was getting myself into. and, truth be told, i didn’t even think of it as entrepreneurship. in my mind, i was launching a website to get some cash flow. the word “entrepreneur” didn’t cross my mind. 

but, thinking back to when i first started out  — i can remember that so many times, i sat frustrated that it was taking me what felt like forever to get to my goals. i felt like i was doing everything right, and couldn’t for the life of me understand why hitting certain goals was taking so long. 

have you ever felt like that? 

like, here you are—

on a mission, aiming to do something, to launch a product, to start a movement, or working to see real change happen — and it’s taking forever to accomplish the goals that you’ve set up for yourself along the way? 

if you an relate — you’re going to love this week’s episode of the daring romantics.

because, here’s the hard truth— 

sometimes, as humans we get in our own way. we don’t mean to. we have good intentions to reach our goals. but sometimes, the little things that we do, whether knowingly or unknowingly, get in our way and prevent us to reaching our goals in a timely manner.

it took me awhile to figure this out for myself. and, honesty, at times — it took a little swallowing of the pride and a willingness to change how i’ve always done things. but, once i started making little changes in my daily life — i noticed, i was hitting my goals and exceeding my goals faster than before.

in this week’s episode, i’m sharing 5 things that are slowing you down from reaching your goals and experiencing wild success. my  hope is that you'll walk away from this episode inspired and empowered to break some old habits and start some new ones.

because, you’ve got things to do in this world, my friend. you’ve got big ideas that need to come to life and other people’s destinies going to be impacted by you and your work. which means, there’s no time to waste. 

you cannot afford to let anything slow you down or keep you from being and doing all that you were created to do.

alright, get to it — listen to episode no. 27 on iTunes. ;) 

cheers and xo's, 

lindsey eryn

creating a healthy lifestyle

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when i started my journey as an entrepreneur, health and fitness was no where on my priority list. i always claimed i was “too busy”. i was on a mission to make impact, to grow my ideas, and bring something into the world that didn’t exist before. i’d work long days and sometimes never making it outside to breathe in the fresh air and often forgetting to eat meals. 

i didn’t even think twice about the habits that i was creating, because— everything was fine. well, that is— until it wasn’t. and i found myself having a seizure in a foreign country. 

for years, i had been neglecting myself and my basic needs. i worked hard. strived. and achieved. and, it was amazing — but, it was costing me my health. 

having a seizure was a wake-up call that i needed to hit the reset button and create new habits and learn how to live a healthy lifestyle. 

i realized — i get one body in this lifetime. 

i don’t get to trade it in when it gets old or worn down. 

which means, i have to take care of it. 

i have to respect it. 

because, through respecting my body — i am respecting my purpose, my dreams, and the visions that i have for my life. 

the truth is simple — if we don’t take care of our bodies, our bodies cannot function in the way they were created, then we will not have the physical energy, strength, or capacity to continue pursuing or dreams and ideas. with that in mind, as dreamers, we cannot afford to not take care of our bodies. 

we have to pursue healthy living so that we can do all that we’ve set out to do.

once i came to an understanding of this — i changed my entire lifestyle. i started working out everyday and feeding my body the kind of foods that it needs in order to thrive. 

and what i found was that living a healthy lifestyle was actually propelling me forward so that i could be all that i wanted to be and do all that i wanted to do. i found myself going throughout my day with more energy, more creativity, and more capacity to push harder towards my goals. essentially, the thing that i was neglecting because i was “too busy”, was actually the very thing that i needed in order to reach the wild success in my life and business that i desired. 

this week, on the daring romantics podcast, i brought on haven brown, one of my best friends, to discuss what we, as dreamers and entrepreneurs, can do take better care of ourselves and create a healthy lifestyle — spirit, mind, and body. more than anything, i hope that you walk away from this episode empowered and challenged to continually pursue healthy living as you chase your dreams. 

tune into episode no. 26  “creating a healthy lifestyle” on iTunes

cheers and xo's 

lindsey eryn